218. The Art of People: 11 Simple People Skills That Will Get You Everything You Want
Rating: ☆☆☆1/2
Author: Dave Kerpen
Genre: Non-Fiction, Business, Self Improvement, Psychology
288 pages, March15, 2016
Reading Format: Book
Summary
In The Art of People, author Dave Kerpen provides straightforward, sensible advice in pithy chapters laced with relevant anecdotes. His focus is on building relationships and truly understanding and connecting with your colleagues, customers, and partners. He covers ideas such as:
- The single most important question you can ever ask to win attention in a meeting
- The one simple key to networking that nobody talks about
- How to remain top of mind for thousands of people, everyday
- Why it usually pays to be the one to give the bad news
- How to blow off the right people
- And why, when in doubt, buy him a Bonsai
Quotes
“However, when you’re accountable to too many people, it’s like being accountable to no one. Thus, the best scenario is to find one accountability partner who can help you and whom you can help.”
“The problem with sharing accomplishments on social media (aka bragging), however, is there’s no tone or body language to help convey your meaning, and that means it’s very easy for people to lose the context and not get your intention right.”
“After conducting years of research on the most effective and least effective traits of leaders, Bell advised leaders to “listen like children watch TV.”
“People in general don’t want advice even when they ask for it. They just want to feel heard.”
“There’s no better way to show that you care about the person you’re meeting with than to genuinely, authentically ask her what you can do to help.”
“It’s not my job to teach you. It’s your job to learn. I’m just here to coach you along the way,” Doc would say to us on a typical day. He was one part teacher, one part coach, and one part cheerleader—always positive, helpful, and encouraging.”
“Many people are so afraid to get a “no” that they don’t ask for a “yes.” The ironic thing here is that they’re virtually guaranteeing getting a “no” by not asking for a “yes.”
My Take
The Art of People is a modern update of the classic How to Win Friends and Influence People, which I found to be an extremely useful book. Like that classic how-to, The Art of People contains numerous tips and sound advice on how to interact with others in a genuine way to create win-win situations. Some of it is common sense, but there were enough new suggestions for me to recommend this book.
